Arguing the Right Way

Everyone argues sometimes. But are you arguing in a way that is not offensive but still gets your point across? There are some basic rules of argument that you would do well to stick by. A common place for arguments is in a marriage. It is dangerous to think that a marriage can be conflict free. Any time you share a home, a bed, a bank account and a family there will times of disagreement. With marriage, work related relationships or friendships there are some basic things to keep in mind when disagreeing.

You always want to stay focused on the issue at hand. Don't bring up things from the past or attack the other person verbally or physically. You would never want to insult, belittle or offend the person you disagree with. There are things that are out of that person's control. You need to know what you are arguing about and make sure you have valid reasons for taking the stand you are taking. You need to be willing to compromise on certain issues and know how much you are willing to concede before you start the discussion. Persuasion accomplishes much more than demanding and screaming. So have your points well in mind and be as direct as possible.

Details are not usually necessary and you can just state what is and isn't acceptable to you. Don't hog the argument, just state your point and listen carefully to them as they state their points without interrupting. You also may need to be willing to admit you are wrong after listening to the other person’s side of the argument. There may be issues involved that you hadn't thought about. Your humility might make them more likely to see your side of an issue next time.