How to Communicate with Your Spouse

To communicate in a marriage means not only talking, but listening as well. Not talking with your spouse is the main reason many marriages fall apart. If you are not talking to your partner, then your marriage is in severe trouble and you need to get some help.

If you don’t talk to one another, how is the other one going to know what you want? Tell them so they will know. Just don’t leave it to chance and say they should know. Be sure to listen to them once they start talking as well. Listen well enough so that you understand what they are saying. Be sure to pick the right times to do your talking. If you’re tired, you will be less willing to concentrate on what they are saying. You need to set aside a time to talk or go on a date just to talk. Make it special. Make them know that you want to listen to them and that what they say is important to you.

If things get heated, instead of screaming at each other, try to remain calm and in control of your emotions. Use your inside voices to tell them how you are feeling about a situation. Screaming and yelling does nothing but cause the other person to tune you out and therefore not understand what you are pouring your heart out about. When you use a calm voice, you get your points across better because they are more ready to listen. This cuts down on arguments and keeps the other person from going into defensive mode.