Mutual Breakups

A relationship can go along smoothly for days, weeks, months, or years. Then there may come a time when a breakup occurs. Even though the relationship had been loving and there was a strong trust factor, the communication process broke down and the healthy climate went into the opposite direction.

There can be many reasons, some obvious and some hidden. There is much confusion about the breakup. There may be some hardships or other delinquent faults in the relationship, there may be extenuating circumstances such as a divorce or suicide of someone near and dear to one member of the couple or to both of them. The healing process could not happen until other factors are taken into consideration.

It could be that the temperaments were so different and after a time there were arguments about the little things that would never have been an issue at an earlier date.

Many times one of the couple is heartbroken over the breakup and while the one has severe pain, the other may be somewhat relieved that the relationship has ended. There may be a conversation about, “It’s not you, it’s me. I still want to be friends.” It may be a mutual decision, but there will still be pain. It is a physically, mentally, and emotionally painful time. Even though it is said that it is a mutual breakup, the truth is that usually there is one dumper and one dumpee. It is also a time to develop new interests and to meet new people.