Reasons to Break Up

Pop culture throughout history has portrayed love as a magical, automatic thing between two perfect people, when in reality, it sometimes takes hard work. Why does a man leave a woman that he loves? Should you leave the person you are with or should you try to work it out?

There are several reasons to break up, and money is one that is most often cited. Although you may have looked at your partner through rose colored glasses at first, eventually you’ll have to deal with their spending habits. Also, money is often not seen as important enough to talk about early on in the relationship, but how an individual uses it has a huge effect on lifestyle. If you find that the person you’re with has vastly different spending habits than your own, keep your bank accounts separate at the very least.

Another of the more common reasons to break up is infidelity. What is considered cheating in a relationship can vary slightly from person to person, but being unfaithful to your partner is generally a good way to tell them that you don’t deserve them. If you’re with someone who’s not with you, but is cheating or lying, it might be better to leave the relationship. Often, being in a relationship is like being a frog in a pot of boiling water. Things heat up, but you don’t notice because it happens gradually. As you spend time with and grow to love someone, you become more accustomed to their behavior, tend to forgive more, and become more like them yourself. Ever notice how seniors who have been married for 50+ years even seem to LOOK alike?

However, if someone is abusing you, don’t tolerate it. Try to resolve it, but know that someone who is abusive by habit will continue to abuse in a cycle. The abuser will often apologize immediately after, and things will seem to be improving. However, eventually he’ll start blame-shifting and threatening, and then abuse will follow. Because of the times of “good” behavior, the abused individual always has a sense of hope that this time the abuse is over for good. However, abuse is one of the most valid reasons to break up with someone.

Often a lack of communication in relationships can be overlooked as a source of problems. Before you break up with that person you once loved so much, talk to them. Often false assumptions can be cleared up by admitting fault and being honest. Although it might logically seem that they’ll just take advantage of you if you don’t continue to attack them, this is not usually the case. A good willed person will respect someone who sincerely apologizes, and one good apology often leads to another. However, most people can tell the difference between a manipulative apology and a sincere desire to restore the relationship.